It has been established by psychologists and neouroscientists that every person in the world carries an ongoing dialogue with themselves, of between 150 and 300 words a minute. This works out to be between 45,000 and 51,000 thoughts a day. That's a lot of input!
But how much of this dialogue is negative or rooted in fear?
It's interesting that most of us experience conflict when someone in our personal environment speaks to us or about us in a negative way. Often we'll avoid that person or situation, or defend ourselves to the point of confrontation or maybe even end the relationship.
But what do you do when the negative talk is inside you?
Are you even aware that your own internal dialogue may be working against you?
Internal dialogue often becomes a point of empowerment when you can tune in to what you are saying to yourself between 45,000 and 51,000 times a day, and filter out the negative messages, replacing them with messages that empower your perspective. What you tell yourself is important, and it deeply affects your attitude.
I recently heard this story from a client.
"I've suffered a lot of anxiety when I get lost driving. For years it could send me into a panic attack. Yet I learned to play a game with myself when this happens. Now, when I get lost I tell myself I'm on a grand adventure in a place I've never been, and that helps me release my fears and actually have fun. I see the strange environment as if I'm in a new land, which makes me curious and I immediately feel better."
It's interesting that just changing the story we tell ourselves can shift our perspective, and give us the energy to move forward with a better attitude.
What are the messages driving you?
What is the worst thing that you tell yourself over and over?
What positive message could you replace the negative one with?
How might that change or impact your life?
It's no mystery that this is an area that I focus on with my clients.
If you're curious how this works, contact me for a free collborative discovery call. It just might change your perspective.
~ B ~
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Coaching for Change
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